Few days ago, a Good friend showed me an article on platonic relationship. It sets me thinking whether male-female can really sustain pure friendship. Is it human's nature that whenever a guy and a girl get closer together, the 2 of them must have something going on, either one of them is interested in the other party? Can't it be just pure friendship?
I guess in this society, people tend to associate guy-girl relationship as just romantic relationship. When two "good" friends of opposite sex get together, and the way they interact and care about the other party becomes more than just mere friends, outsiders start to think of them differently.
"Are you guys together? You sure you don't have feeling for him/her?" Was what people usually asked. Then, it may seems like the abnormal ones are the 2 of them because they feel that they are just pure good friends that can connect with each other at the same frequency.
Clearly, people do not have enough information and exposure to such relationship and that their thinking tend to be much shallow. Of course, people will be able to understand when they have experienced it.
Initially, I do have doubts on platonic relationship as I always feel that if the guy show care and concern more than just friends, they are more likely inclined towards you. But many instances proved to me that, yes, it does exist. Pure friendship. Therefore, I laughed at my shallowness and stupidity back then.
This topic has been argued by many people and it's among people's hot topic. Definitely it's good to be able to have a good friend of opposite sex to share their thoughts and feelings about this relationship.
Now, who share the same thought as me?
5 comments:
you are not stupid or shallow that you thought that way, cause during puberty is indeed 90% of which that happened is true that either liked another. There is no pure friendship but however I think relationship comes in stages. There will be a stage whereby you love the person but is equilvilant to like say, love your parents. Pure friendship is more of the latter stage. Crush, love, infatuation are just like first few stages of a relationship. My pov.
I see. I guess you are speaking from your experience?
It's true that we may be thinking that way since young and the love we have for the opposite sex is puppy love. And it is from then we grew up and realized that true pure friendship of opposite sex does exist. But it's a matter of how you look at it also. Sometimes when a friendship begins, it will naturally be just friendship cause you guys know that nothing can come out from the two of you.
Sometimes one party will give wrong signal or impression that one is romantically interested in the other party which may be not true. If the other party gets the wrong message, the consequences may be bad. Isn't it?
I think even since young the friendship existed. And you have to do a lot to catch the other party's attention that you are interested.
Ya attention such as giving nicknames, pulling hair and playing with each other?
But as we grow older, guys have to do much more to attract the gal attention. It's more of understanding the gal alr
I meant more like explicit expression such as giving chocolate on valentine, roses, giving surprise on birthday etc. And yeah on the second part.
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