Saturday, April 21, 2012

Unlocked achievement - friendship

After last night, I have a lot of thoughts to myself. An eventful happening night. I seriously thought it through. I felt the heart pain, heartaches and everything else I used to go through. - the pain.

"Friend - Noun:
A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations. "

The above was taken from the net.

I've live for 22 years which is close to 1/4 century. Friends are always my weakness. Even up till now, I tend to get upset over friends from time to time. But definitely grew up from some past mistakes. Friends are friends. Acquaintances are acquaintances.best friends and good friends are different too.

My definition
Acquaintance: a person who I know but do not exchange any bits of understanding

Friend: a person who exchange values and have the basic level of understanding for each other.

Good friend: A person who helps you out when you need it, no matter how it makes them look.
A good friend is someone you shouldn't have to worry about your secrets that you told him or her.
A good friend encourages you and tell you truthful things.
A good friend do not judge how you wear or how awful you look.
A good friend isn't necessary of the same sex.
Time is not the key determinant to determine if you are good friend with them.
A good friend listens, not hear.
A good friend will be harsh to you if he or she thinks that you are not doing the right thing.
A good friend can feel your emotions and feelings even when you said nothing.
A good friend know what you like, what you don't like and the little things that he or she notice that other people dont.
A good friend would not say superficial things to you.
And definitely, a good friend would not bear grudge even if they might be pissed at you at that point of time.

Best friend: that one person with the qualities of a good friend plus doing crazy things with you. Even though he or she know that it's wrong. For instance, a friend will bail you out but your best friend will sit with you and face all the consequences together and says, "hey we screwed it up!" (okay, it's a lousy example but the meaning is there) the mutual understanding for each other will be of higher level. Your best friend don't have to stay by your side every time but you know when you guys meet up, you still have tons of things to tell each other. You laugh together, cry together, jealous with each other, angry over small little thing but patch up in a split second. Your best friend will give you a hug when things go wrong. And.. Your best friend know what you are thinking by exchanging glances!

My definition of friendship.

1 comment:

Gary Chen said...

I have similar thoughts but some don't see the difference.