After last night, I have a lot of thoughts to myself. An eventful happening night. I seriously thought it through. I felt the heart pain, heartaches and everything else I used to go through. - the pain.
"Friend - Noun:
A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations. "
The above was taken from the net.
I've live for 22 years which is close to 1/4 century. Friends are always my weakness. Even up till now, I tend to get upset over friends from time to time. But definitely grew up from some past mistakes. Friends are friends. Acquaintances are acquaintances.best friends and good friends are different too.
My definition
Acquaintance: a person who I know but do not exchange any bits of understanding
Friend: a person who exchange values and have the basic level of understanding for each other.
Good friend: A person who helps you out when you need it, no matter how it makes them look.
A good friend is someone you shouldn't have to worry about your secrets that you told him or her.
A good friend encourages you and tell you truthful things.
A good friend do not judge how you wear or how awful you look.
A good friend isn't necessary of the same sex.
Time is not the key determinant to determine if you are good friend with them.
A good friend listens, not hear.
A good friend will be harsh to you if he or she thinks that you are not doing the right thing.
A good friend can feel your emotions and feelings even when you said nothing.
A good friend know what you like, what you don't like and the little things that he or she notice that other people dont.
A good friend would not say superficial things to you.
And definitely, a good friend would not bear grudge even if they might be pissed at you at that point of time.
Best friend: that one person with the qualities of a good friend plus doing crazy things with you. Even though he or she know that it's wrong. For instance, a friend will bail you out but your best friend will sit with you and face all the consequences together and says, "hey we screwed it up!" (okay, it's a lousy example but the meaning is there) the mutual understanding for each other will be of higher level. Your best friend don't have to stay by your side every time but you know when you guys meet up, you still have tons of things to tell each other. You laugh together, cry together, jealous with each other, angry over small little thing but patch up in a split second. Your best friend will give you a hug when things go wrong. And.. Your best friend know what you are thinking by exchanging glances!
My definition of friendship.
Saturday, April 21, 2012
Friday, April 13, 2012
Men are from mars?
Sometimes I wonder, what is love to guys? Why some guys could change girlfriends like changing clothes? One after the other, it's either the guy lack of love, need companion as they would die without girls or just pure desperate?
I find it disgusting to see that the girl beside the guy has been changing. Whatever happen to "I love you"? It's just like saying "sorry" or "thank you" without much significance. "sorry" and "thank you" have become one of the words that has been widely abused. When you knocked into someone, the immediate response is to say "sorry". It's not from the bottom of the heart anymore.
Same goes to I love you. Whatever happen to I love you? The meaning of that 3 words no longer contain significance to the person who said it out. At least that's what I think from my point of view.
"I always love you" it's bullshit. But girls tend to fall for it. I used to be one of the victim. Now I'm not. Girls are suckers for sweet coating words. They are easy prey when it comes to this. Guys always said they don't understand girls. I think it's guys who are even harder to understand. What were they thinking when they told the new girlfriend that "I love you" when they may have just bid goodbye to a few year relationship? Doesnt it sound dubious when they can quickly adapt to a new girl and "love" that girl that fast? I guess that's the difference between men and women in general.
But sometimes I do admire these type of guys because they can pick up themselves real fast. However, the mere thought of the promises they have made really turns me off. This post is definitely biased towards guys probably because I haven met someone that can change my opinion of guys. It somehow makes me wonder do good guys still exist?
Someone once told me that even the most honest guy would cheat you somehow. It may not be physical, but mentally. I guess the degree of betrayal differs from one person to the other.
How should I learn to love someone again?
Ps: exam is round the corner. That explains my hormone imbalance ><
I find it disgusting to see that the girl beside the guy has been changing. Whatever happen to "I love you"? It's just like saying "sorry" or "thank you" without much significance. "sorry" and "thank you" have become one of the words that has been widely abused. When you knocked into someone, the immediate response is to say "sorry". It's not from the bottom of the heart anymore.
Same goes to I love you. Whatever happen to I love you? The meaning of that 3 words no longer contain significance to the person who said it out. At least that's what I think from my point of view.
"I always love you" it's bullshit. But girls tend to fall for it. I used to be one of the victim. Now I'm not. Girls are suckers for sweet coating words. They are easy prey when it comes to this. Guys always said they don't understand girls. I think it's guys who are even harder to understand. What were they thinking when they told the new girlfriend that "I love you" when they may have just bid goodbye to a few year relationship? Doesnt it sound dubious when they can quickly adapt to a new girl and "love" that girl that fast? I guess that's the difference between men and women in general.
But sometimes I do admire these type of guys because they can pick up themselves real fast. However, the mere thought of the promises they have made really turns me off. This post is definitely biased towards guys probably because I haven met someone that can change my opinion of guys. It somehow makes me wonder do good guys still exist?
Someone once told me that even the most honest guy would cheat you somehow. It may not be physical, but mentally. I guess the degree of betrayal differs from one person to the other.
How should I learn to love someone again?
Ps: exam is round the corner. That explains my hormone imbalance ><
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Platonic relationship
Few days ago, a Good friend showed me an article on platonic relationship. It sets me thinking whether male-female can really sustain pure friendship. Is it human's nature that whenever a guy and a girl get closer together, the 2 of them must have something going on, either one of them is interested in the other party? Can't it be just pure friendship?
I guess in this society, people tend to associate guy-girl relationship as just romantic relationship. When two "good" friends of opposite sex get together, and the way they interact and care about the other party becomes more than just mere friends, outsiders start to think of them differently.
"Are you guys together? You sure you don't have feeling for him/her?" Was what people usually asked. Then, it may seems like the abnormal ones are the 2 of them because they feel that they are just pure good friends that can connect with each other at the same frequency.
Clearly, people do not have enough information and exposure to such relationship and that their thinking tend to be much shallow. Of course, people will be able to understand when they have experienced it.
Initially, I do have doubts on platonic relationship as I always feel that if the guy show care and concern more than just friends, they are more likely inclined towards you. But many instances proved to me that, yes, it does exist. Pure friendship. Therefore, I laughed at my shallowness and stupidity back then.
This topic has been argued by many people and it's among people's hot topic. Definitely it's good to be able to have a good friend of opposite sex to share their thoughts and feelings about this relationship.
Now, who share the same thought as me?
I guess in this society, people tend to associate guy-girl relationship as just romantic relationship. When two "good" friends of opposite sex get together, and the way they interact and care about the other party becomes more than just mere friends, outsiders start to think of them differently.
"Are you guys together? You sure you don't have feeling for him/her?" Was what people usually asked. Then, it may seems like the abnormal ones are the 2 of them because they feel that they are just pure good friends that can connect with each other at the same frequency.
Clearly, people do not have enough information and exposure to such relationship and that their thinking tend to be much shallow. Of course, people will be able to understand when they have experienced it.
Initially, I do have doubts on platonic relationship as I always feel that if the guy show care and concern more than just friends, they are more likely inclined towards you. But many instances proved to me that, yes, it does exist. Pure friendship. Therefore, I laughed at my shallowness and stupidity back then.
This topic has been argued by many people and it's among people's hot topic. Definitely it's good to be able to have a good friend of opposite sex to share their thoughts and feelings about this relationship.
Now, who share the same thought as me?
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